My sister and I had an argument about concepts of Arrange marriages, where I spoke for and she somewhat not convinced with it, which later turned to a spicy debate. I must tell you, it was so refreshing and morale boosting conversation to me and for her most of it was Bull S**T.
Well, to be truthful, yes, it was really enlightening to me about how and what I have achieved in these 5 years of marriage.
My sis woes were basically about the groom. Her question was how can you get married to someone whom you have met [seen to be precise] only once? She thinks she needs to meet and talk to the guy a couple of times to really know him and then she would decide if he is the one… meeting the person outside the boundaries [boundary is meant be our respective homes] more than once would be called going around or dating and deciding on that person would be committing which are all concepts of love marriage is my presumption. So the conversation started off.
I said the first step to any marriage would be trust and that lays as a foundation to your future relationship. In Arrange Marriages, You first go through the Bride/Groom’s photo & Resume [specially designed for Marriages] then the family, their backgrounds, their social and financial status and then the Bride/Groom is asked if he/she liked the prospect [as a formality] the decision is already taken by the elders [parents/ guardians or the eldest of the family usually the grandparents]. That’s how it was for me [so I take the liberty to explain it this way to my sister]. I continued “Since there is parents support here, you already have a security to the relationship”. The foundation is already laid by your parents. With all these developments your mind automatically accepts that person to be your life partner. The good and bad would weigh the same.
All said… I looked back to my 5 years of marriage. I see life so different to what we are living now. I feel it’s like starting a life from scratch… like sowing a seed and reaping the fruits… like first brick laid to living in a well furnished, comfortable home. It’s all worth it.